I have this theory about finding oneself a partner. When I was in college, it occurred to me why do women in our country have this tradition of prolonging courtship. The more a Filipina prolongs the agony of an admirer, the more she is looked upon by society. I just thought that it is totally unfair, besides women in our country are strongly taking a stand of being equal to their male counterparts. That’s another argument to be fought on another day.
I want to focus on the part where the Filipino male have to undertake enormous amounts of suffering before getting the chance to be in a relationship. This is in the previous generation of course and still holds true in the provinces with classic rural settings.
I for one underwent such a phase in my life as a teenager. I later realized that things don’t have to be that way, where a girl plays hard-to-get. It just doesn’t make sense at all.
First of all, no one would benefit from long courtships. It’s just plain crap. The obvious fact is you’re wasting each other’s time that should be spent in getting to know each other. Some of you might say that the courtship stage is the getting-to-know-each-other part but that’s just bull. As a male, I don’t agree that a man courting a woman would show his true colors. There’s just no way that’s going to happen. Even the sincerest guy would say so but I’d say that there is still a mystery within every man that needs hiding and that doesn’t show at all until he’s in the relationship itself.
There’s always this instinctive defense mechanism that the Filipino male displays whenever courting a Filipina. That would be to show all the good side of him and be a gentleman in all possible ways. After the courtship, that wouldn’t be the case in a couple of months and its even luck if it would actually reach two months.
An average Filipino male in his youth is packed with large amounts of raging hormones. And one way or the other, the goal is just to get laid with the hottest girls they can find. Not much different from other nations, that being the obvious.
Now let’s proceed to my theory. In my own perspective, if I get it right and convince you, you’d probably get the girl of your dreams, as for the Filipina, you’d get a wide selection to pick from and most importantly avoid getting heartbroken.
My theory is as simple as this, if a Filipina likes a guy, she should get into a relationship with him as soon as the opportunity presents itself. In this way, she is not yet in love with the guy and the moment she finds out a characteristic that is below her standards, she can easily get out of the relationship just as easy as she got into it. No one would get hurt as far as being in love is concerned. Egos might be trampled upon and confidence declined but it’s just a normal process in our daily lives. My theory is like trial and error only that we are doing it in a shorter amount of time. Like physics experiments, the faster you perform an experiment the more chances of getting a smaller margin of error. Of course, you have to be as accurate as possible in the process. In real life, accuracy is not escalating your feelings before the curtains fall and discovering the face behind the mask. You should know the boundaries between lust and love at all times.
To clear up things, let’s put it in a simpler way; taste but don’t swallow. If you don’t like it, spit it out just as fast as you licked it. But if the taste suits you, do not swallow still. Yet, toy with it in your mouth and try to savor it. Manipulate with your tongue and set your taste buds free from all other flavors. Once you’ve decided that you want to go for more, that’s the only time you can swallow. However, like all other types of food comes with a warning, eat at your own risk.
By means of tasting and spitting, you get a better chance of hitting the food you like rather than filling up your plate with delightful dishes that are only fitting for the eyes. When your palate is full then that’s the only time you can tell that you’re in love.
As for the Filipino male, explain this wisely and you’ll have a girlfriend in no time. Then it is entirely up to you.